This blog is in response to controlled chaos' blog about a story in woman's world (I think it was) by a freshman girl, about a mom who felt unappreciated and left for two weeks. I have not read it and don't doubt it's a good story, and seemingly has a good ending from what the blog said. Here is my thought on would it work in real life, a mom just up and leaving because she felt unappreciated at home.
So often we are left feeling unappreciated, in our jobs, in our friendships, and even as in this case in our homes by those closest to us, our family members. You asked if that scenario would work in real life, the mom just up and leaving. I would think no but really I guess it depends on the age of kids, the fathers job and so many other situations. Personally i think (whether it be a father or a mother) just leaving for feeling unappreciated in the home is extremely selfish and immature. What ever happened to talking things out, especially with your spouse. I know there are many parents out there that are unappreciated and treated like dirt, and I sympathize with them deeply, however to up and leave without communication and merely on the basis of "feeling unappreciated" is absurd in my eyes. Whatever happened to doing things out of love for the person of which your doing them? I know it sounds corny, but really. I think if you go the extra mile out of love for your spouse and kids, the appreciation will be there even without words. Maybe the lack of appreciation is in part a by product of the intentions put forth by the person feeling unappreciated. In essence the person who feels unappreciated does in cause they "have to" rather then they "want to". The attitude is one of what will I get rather then self sacrifice for those they love. I have found the same attitude goes in serving God.
My wife (God bless that woman I love her so much) has gotten down so to speak because the laundry piles never seem to get smaller, there are always dishes it seems, dust seems there even after she dusts. Now she could sit around and complain how we need to help more and she cant take it she feels so unappreciated. However she does none of this, instead she told me she does it for us (me and our girls) and God. She goes at it with the attitude that she is grateful her kids are clothed and therefore she has there dirty clothes to clean, that though the dishes are piling up, her family is fed, that though there is dust in the house, she has a house to clean. Have I mentioned how grateful I am to have such a beautiful blessing of a wife as this? I hope all who read this are inspired to remember how God wants us to look at things, not taking them for granted or complaining about things that are actually by products of the blessings he has given us. Ephesians 2:14-15 says :"Do all things without complaining or disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights of the world" Let us do all things out of love for those of we care for, not out of the need for "praise from men" or with intentions of something in return. If we do this I guarantee you will not feel unappreciated, rather quite the opposite.
My prayer for all of us is that we open our hearts to Gods will and attitude, that we may shine as lights to the world, bright with the Spirit to draw all to the love and power of God and His awesome kingdom. With love and good tidings always.